-by Mary May Larmoyeux– Remembering grandparents from past generations has reminded me of the importance of writing birthday letters to my grandkids. I read this idea somewhere—I think in the Littauers’ book Making the Blueplate Special. And it is a very doable idea.
Several years ago, someone at a Toastmasters meeting asked, “If you could go to lunch with anyone, living or dead, who would it be?” And most people said their grandparents.
When asked “Why?” the common response was “I never really knew them.”
Did you know all of your grandparents? Do your kids know theirs? I only knew two of mine. A few of years ago Pops and I started a new tradition with the grands—giving them a personal letter on their birthday.
It’s been fun for us to share in our letters memories of their actual “birth day.” We’ve also included memories during the past year along with a Bible verse that reminds us of the particular child … or one that we’ll be praying for that child.
Although many might enjoy writing birthday letters by hand, I prepare ours on the computer and then Pops and I sign them. I include special pictures from that year in the body of the letter, and then print the letter in color. Pops and I not only give each grandchild their birthday letter, but also put a copy in a special notebook that we’ll give to the grandchild one day.
Now, I have to confess, I often get behind on writing birthday letters. I’m actually finishing two letters now for birthdays that have already passed. And once a grandson politely told me that I made a “typo” in his letter. I had said that I couldn’t believe he’s already 10 years old when he had actually just turned 11. Oh, well, at least I tried.
I have to give myself grace and remember that the letters will be special to the grands one day, even if they are late … and even if they don’t receive a birthday letter every single year … even if they have a “typo.”
What do you do to make special memories on your grandchildren’s birthdays? How did your grandparents remember your birthday?
© 2008, 2017 Mary May Larmoyeux. All rights reserved.
Would you like some more creative ideas for grandparents? Then check out The Grandparent Connection: 365 Ways to Connect With Your Grandchild’s Heart. Paper and electronic versions are available. (Great for parents, aunts and uncles, too!)